Good God. 99 comment notification emails

[jumperfucker]

And that was just on my journal.

Listen, I know as well as anybody that cons_detective can be a bit harsh. But if you’re kind to him, he generally returns the sentiment (I don’t know if it’s possible for him to not be sarcastic, but he won’t outright insult you is what I mean). If you back him into a corner, of course he’s going to bite. When you make him feel like he has to defend himself, that’s exactly what he’s going to do. And then when he does defend himself, some people seem to only take that as an excuse to dog pile on him. This only makes things worse.

I’m not white knighting for him. OK, maybe I am a bit, but I think I’ve earned that right as his boyfriend.

When someone upsets him online, it doesn’t just stay online. It affects him in a way I’m not entirely sure how to deal with. We’re still new to one another, so it may take me a bit of time to work out how to deal with him when he gets like this. He’d already had an upsetting morning yesterday, and really didn’t need it further exacerbated by accusations against his character.

Yeah, I’m a little annoyed. I like you guys, and some people yesterday were genuinely trying to be helpful, which I appreciate. To those few who were just commenting to antagonise him, I’m a little disappointed.


I’ve frozen the comments on the previous entry. Hopefully that’ll keep anything from getting worse.

Comments

[dreamwaffles.livejournal.com]

O.o Glad I missed that, I think.

...I just automatically reached for the cookie tin, because that's my standard reaction at times like these, and then I remembered that I can't actually give you one through the internet.

I'll, uh. Eat one for each of you then? I hope both of you are okay. Have some tea?

[jumperfucker]

♥

Thanks

[dreamwaffles.livejournal.com]

Have a peanut butter cookie recipe, as I can't give you the actual cookie. And I really hope both of you feel better.

1/2 c butter
1 c sugar
1 c peanut butter (smooth)
1 egg
1 t vanilla (optional)
2 c flour
1/2 t soda

Roll dough into small balls, about golf-ball sized. Poke a hole halfway through them with your thumb, keeping the edges intact. Fill the hole with the jam of your choice, not quite all the way. Bake ~10 minutes at 350 F.

[jumperfucker]

Sounds delicious. Thanks.

I have to go to work soon, but I'll leave the recipe with him. He might enjoy having something to do.

[dreamwaffles.livejournal.com]

Hey, anytime. My usual mode of dealing with upset people is to feed them cookies and tea and nod in the right places; I'm not so good with the words thing. Silly as it may be, this made me feel less useless.

Hope it works. Have a good day!

[my-croft.livejournal.com]

Bookmarking for future reference.

[dreamwaffles.livejournal.com]

A note: while this is not super easy to make vegan, it's possible. Take out the egg and substitute canola oil for the butter. Also, it's easy to make gluten-free, and is particularly tasty with oat flour.

Or, y'know, tasty as normal. I just make cookies a lot with my friend who can't eat wheat, and these are her favorites. She'd win in a fight with me, so I haven't made them with wheat flour in over a year. XD

Best of luck with them.