Good God. 99 comment notification emails

[jumperfucker]

And that was just on my journal.

Listen, I know as well as anybody that cons_detective can be a bit harsh. But if you’re kind to him, he generally returns the sentiment (I don’t know if it’s possible for him to not be sarcastic, but he won’t outright insult you is what I mean). If you back him into a corner, of course he’s going to bite. When you make him feel like he has to defend himself, that’s exactly what he’s going to do. And then when he does defend himself, some people seem to only take that as an excuse to dog pile on him. This only makes things worse.

I’m not white knighting for him. OK, maybe I am a bit, but I think I’ve earned that right as his boyfriend.

When someone upsets him online, it doesn’t just stay online. It affects him in a way I’m not entirely sure how to deal with. We’re still new to one another, so it may take me a bit of time to work out how to deal with him when he gets like this. He’d already had an upsetting morning yesterday, and really didn’t need it further exacerbated by accusations against his character.

Yeah, I’m a little annoyed. I like you guys, and some people yesterday were genuinely trying to be helpful, which I appreciate. To those few who were just commenting to antagonise him, I’m a little disappointed.


I’ve frozen the comments on the previous entry. Hopefully that’ll keep anything from getting worse.

Comments

[consulting_detective]

I don't actually need you to defend me.

[jumperfucker]

Maybe not, but I'm sick of all the wank showing up on my journal.


Which is why I will filter you from this post if you respond to anyone who doesn't directly comment to you. I'm serious.

[verilyvexed.livejournal.com]

So now would probably not be the best time to ask permission to draw RPS porn of you two, I imagine?

[jumperfucker]

*facepalm*

[verilyvexed.livejournal.com]

I'll just... I'll just be over there somewhere.

[nianeyna.livejournal.com]

BRB LOLING FOREVER.

[my-croft.livejournal.com]

I think it's always the best time for porn.

[salts-theway.livejournal.com]

I should be glad I missed last night, from the looks of it.

[jumperfucker]

Yeah, just a bit.

[lass-sirene.livejournal.com]

Sorry about that!

*Sheepish look*

I'll curb my erm... enthusiasm on your journal from now on. I thought it was just a bit of teasing, but I can see now it wasn't. No hard feelings, yeah?

[jumperfucker]

I don't know, actually. I'm still trying to calm him down. :/

[lass-sirene.livejournal.com]

Let me know if there's anything I can do?

And until then... I'll just slink away.

[jumperfucker]

I'd seen some of the... er, posts from previous arguments, but this is the first time I've seen him afterwards. I just wish I'd been awake to stop it all sooner.

[dreamwaffles.livejournal.com]

O.o Glad I missed that, I think.

...I just automatically reached for the cookie tin, because that's my standard reaction at times like these, and then I remembered that I can't actually give you one through the internet.

I'll, uh. Eat one for each of you then? I hope both of you are okay. Have some tea?

[jumperfucker]

♥

Thanks

[dreamwaffles.livejournal.com]

Have a peanut butter cookie recipe, as I can't give you the actual cookie. And I really hope both of you feel better.

1/2 c butter
1 c sugar
1 c peanut butter (smooth)
1 egg
1 t vanilla (optional)
2 c flour
1/2 t soda

Roll dough into small balls, about golf-ball sized. Poke a hole halfway through them with your thumb, keeping the edges intact. Fill the hole with the jam of your choice, not quite all the way. Bake ~10 minutes at 350 F.

[jumperfucker]

Sounds delicious. Thanks.

I have to go to work soon, but I'll leave the recipe with him. He might enjoy having something to do.

[dreamwaffles.livejournal.com]

Hey, anytime. My usual mode of dealing with upset people is to feed them cookies and tea and nod in the right places; I'm not so good with the words thing. Silly as it may be, this made me feel less useless.

Hope it works. Have a good day!

[my-croft.livejournal.com]

Bookmarking for future reference.

[dreamwaffles.livejournal.com]

A note: while this is not super easy to make vegan, it's possible. Take out the egg and substitute canola oil for the butter. Also, it's easy to make gluten-free, and is particularly tasty with oat flour.

Or, y'know, tasty as normal. I just make cookies a lot with my friend who can't eat wheat, and these are her favorites. She'd win in a fight with me, so I haven't made them with wheat flour in over a year. XD

Best of luck with them.

[ningen-demonai.livejournal.com]

... Ouch. :/

[ningen-demonai.livejournal.com]

Also, I'm really really sorry if I unwittingly exacerbated things. Bit like a bull in a china shop when it comes to these kinda matters.

[jumperfucker]

I'm not really sure, actually. There were a few who were being obvious about it, but I'm not going to name any names.

[ningen-demonai.livejournal.com]

Mm, well, I hope he's feeling better and that you both have had a nice lunch then.

[jumperfucker]

Yes, it was very nice, thank you.

[ununpentium.livejournal.com]

Everything happens when I'm offline.

I hope the two of you are okay, anyway.

[jumperfucker]

Yeah, I wish I'd been online. Maybe then, I could have stopped that mess before it started.

[falling-voices.livejournal.com]

That was a big bad mess. Are you two alright?

[jumperfucker]

Yes, much better. Thanks. :)

[travels-in-time.livejournal.com]

Wow. o_O

I was teasing him a bit at first, because I could totally see him failing to apologize or clear it up with the landlord at all--it was an accident, why in the world should he apologize for something that was clearly not his fault, I could see his mindset being. I hope I didn't contribute to the problem.

Some people clearly have waaaaaay too much time on their hands. Not to mention a strange idea of what constitutes "their business" vs. "your business". I hope things calm down for both of you.

[jumperfucker]

I honestly don't know if he can tell the difference between casual teasing and an outright attack. He seems to respond the same way to both. I finally got the chance to read through his whole post, and man. Some people.

[my-croft.livejournal.com]

Adding my apologies to the pile for what it's worth.

[jumperfucker]

Next time, try to think of the aftermath, alright?

[my-croft.livejournal.com]

Yes, ma'am.

[let-us-trade.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry for contributing to it at all, even if just over on his journal instead of yours.

[jumperfucker]

Well, like I said to my_croft, just keep in mind how it'll affect everything else next time, yeah?