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Jun. 3rd, 2011 06:51 amAnd that was just on my journal.
Listen, I know as well as anybody that![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
cons_detective can be a bit harsh. But if you’re kind to him, he generally returns the sentiment (I don’t know if it’s possible for him to not be sarcastic, but he won’t outright insult you is what I mean). If you back him into a corner, of course he’s going to bite. When you make him feel like he has to defend himself, that’s exactly what he’s going to do. And then when he does defend himself, some people seem to only take that as an excuse to dog pile on him. This only makes things worse.
I’m not white knighting for him. OK, maybe I am a bit, but I think I’ve earned that right as his boyfriend.
When someone upsets him online, it doesn’t just stay online. It affects him in a way I’m not entirely sure how to deal with. We’re still new to one another, so it may take me a bit of time to work out how to deal with him when he gets like this. He’d already had an upsetting morning yesterday, and really didn’t need it further exacerbated by accusations against his character.
Yeah, I’m a little annoyed. I like you guys, and some people yesterday were genuinely trying to be helpful, which I appreciate. To those few who were just commenting to antagonise him, I’m a little disappointed.
I’ve frozen the comments on the previous entry. Hopefully that’ll keep anything from getting worse.
Listen, I know as well as anybody that
cons_detective can be a bit harsh. But if you’re kind to him, he generally returns the sentiment (I don’t know if it’s possible for him to not be sarcastic, but he won’t outright insult you is what I mean). If you back him into a corner, of course he’s going to bite. When you make him feel like he has to defend himself, that’s exactly what he’s going to do. And then when he does defend himself, some people seem to only take that as an excuse to dog pile on him. This only makes things worse.I’m not white knighting for him. OK, maybe I am a bit, but I think I’ve earned that right as his boyfriend.
When someone upsets him online, it doesn’t just stay online. It affects him in a way I’m not entirely sure how to deal with. We’re still new to one another, so it may take me a bit of time to work out how to deal with him when he gets like this. He’d already had an upsetting morning yesterday, and really didn’t need it further exacerbated by accusations against his character.
Yeah, I’m a little annoyed. I like you guys, and some people yesterday were genuinely trying to be helpful, which I appreciate. To those few who were just commenting to antagonise him, I’m a little disappointed.
I’ve frozen the comments on the previous entry. Hopefully that’ll keep anything from getting worse.
