I know you've tried to avoid all the bs and wank involved, but after watching all this play out over the last month, I'm gonna be a bit of a bitch and hand you some assvice (advice you didn't ask for, from someone you don't care about).
S is jealous. Of course he is, and from what I've seen about how intimately your ex is involved in your lives, I don't blame him. (I've been with my husband for 15 years, and I'd be livid, frankly.)
To think he wouldn't be is naive. To petulantly state that you're not taking sides in this disagreement is short-sighted and uncaring. Either S is your boyfriend or he isn't. The person you claim to care about deserves MORE of your time, MORE of your consideration, MORE of your love. That does NOT mean you have to drop your friends, or avoid Mary, or not be friends with her, or allow S to dictate who you can see (good god no).
But you DO have to determine if S if your lover, or just your annoying roommate. Because it's getting damn hard to tell.
Sorry for being an annoying nonnie. I'll not say anything about it again.
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Date: 2011-07-09 05:20 pm (UTC)I know you've tried to avoid all the bs and wank involved, but after watching all this play out over the last month, I'm gonna be a bit of a bitch and hand you some assvice (advice you didn't ask for, from someone you don't care about).
S is jealous. Of course he is, and from what I've seen about how intimately your ex is involved in your lives, I don't blame him. (I've been with my husband for 15 years, and I'd be livid, frankly.)
To think he wouldn't be is naive. To petulantly state that you're not taking sides in this disagreement is short-sighted and uncaring. Either S is your boyfriend or he isn't. The person you claim to care about deserves MORE of your time, MORE of your consideration, MORE of your love. That does NOT mean you have to drop your friends, or avoid Mary, or not be friends with her, or allow S to dictate who you can see (good god no).
But you DO have to determine if S if your lover, or just your annoying roommate. Because it's getting damn hard to tell.
Sorry for being an annoying nonnie. I'll not say anything about it again.