Good God. 99 comment notification emails

And that was just on my journal.

Listen, I know as well as anybody that cons_detective can be a bit harsh. But if you’re kind to him, he generally returns the sentiment (I don’t know if it’s possible for him to not be sarcastic, but he won’t outright insult you is what I mean). If you back him into a corner, of course he’s going to bite. When you make him feel like he has to defend himself, that’s exactly what he’s going to do. And then when he does defend himself, some people seem to only take that as an excuse to dog pile on him. This only makes things worse.

I’m not white knighting for him. OK, maybe I am a bit, but I think I’ve earned that right as his boyfriend.

When someone upsets him online, it doesn’t just stay online. It affects him in a way I’m not entirely sure how to deal with. We’re still new to one another, so it may take me a bit of time to work out how to deal with him when he gets like this. He’d already had an upsetting morning yesterday, and really didn’t need it further exacerbated by accusations against his character.

Yeah, I’m a little annoyed. I like you guys, and some people yesterday were genuinely trying to be helpful, which I appreciate. To those few who were just commenting to antagonise him, I’m a little disappointed.


I’ve frozen the comments on the previous entry. Hopefully that’ll keep anything from getting worse.

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Things have calmed down a bit. S and I are going to go to lunch together in about 15 minutes. I'm looking forward to a relaxing time with him, away from the clutter and drama.


Thanks to everyone who's commented on my last entry. I'll reply when I get home because I can't work out how to do comments on this thing.

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Yes, things are much better. cons_detective is napping on the sofa with his feet in my lap and has calmed down a lot since this morning.

But man, I'm telling you. Waking up to a kettle being thrown across the kitchen is not good for PTSD. So I woke up in a bad mood because he was in a bad mood, and I may have come off a bit more harsh than I'd meant to in my post this morning. Add to that I didn't get my tea because the kettle had broken when it knocked the drying rack for the dishes off the counter, and no-one was happy.

Again, and I don't think I said this enough last time, thank you to those who were trying to be comforting to him yesterday. I think it does help him to know that not everyone out there dislikes him, even if he doesn't quite know what to do with that information.